5 Ideas to Begin to Self-Care and Self-Love

You know that feeling when you know what you are supposed to be doing? You literally have the answer to how to get out of the slump you’ve been in, yet you are so caught up in yourself, overthinking the little things, that you don’t take the time and effort to do what you have to do to get better.

Well that’s been me.

I have come to the realization that though I have great intentions, I want to encourage others to live the best life they are capable of living, I haven’t fully worked out some of essential things in my life which are caring for and loving myself.

I decided that I needed to revamp my 2016 goals to include self-care and self-love.

Don’t get me wrong, I have definitely been working on those two areas a lot this year, more than I ever have in my life. But not in the “this is a main priority” way but more so in the “oh this is necessary I should try these things” way.

I haven’t devoted the time and attention that these areas deserve in my life.

If you don’t already know, self-care simply means taking care of yourself, and self-love means loving yourself.

You can work  on these things by making the commitment to incorporate activities into your daily life that make you feel good about yourself and happy to be alive.

I’ve decided to share with you guys some examples of self-care and self-love practices that I like and I have incorporated into my life (BTW: I recently wrote this post on some ways you can love yourself, feel free to check it out) :

  1. Practice Gratitude – This can simply be daily journaling about things you are grateful for or just taking a couple of minutes everyday to think about some things you are grateful for that day.
  2. Spend Time Alone – This can involve disconnecting from the noise of life, such as social media and people in general (I highly recommend it. It is so helpful). You can take time to empty your mind and meditate on positive things, read a book; do something that you enjoy without focusing on the rest of the world for a while.
  3. Exercise – I will never get tired of saying how good exercise is. Like I’ve said numerous times before, exercise helps you feel and look good. It’s a good way to clear your mind creating a temporary relief from the stress and anxiety of life.
  4. Have a Girls/Guys night – Grab some movies, go out for drinks, do whatever you want, but make a habit of scheduling time with the people that make life a little better for you.
  5. Have a spa day – There’s nothing like getting a facial, massage, your nails and hair did. Pamper yourself the way you want.

Bonus tip: Another thing that you can do is pick one specific theme to focus on each month for the rest of the year or even into next year. Focus on spending that month incorporating that activity into your daily routine until it becomes a habit.


Honestly, this list could go on forever. However, what works for me won’t always work for you.

I challenge you to take some time and think of all the things that make you feel good and happy to be alive and then incorporate them into your daily life.

You are amazing and capable and deserving of all the greatness and love in the world.

It honestly, all starts with you.





Your Happiness belongs to YOU

I can’t start this post without saying that this is so freaking hard. And, honestly? I am still working on reaching that perfect level of control over my happiness.

Some days are bad.

I get anxious, dizzy, and I can’t breathe when I think about things not playing out the way I imagined they would or losing the things (people, opportunities etc) that currently make me so happy.

BUT, when I think about the peace that I gain when I put those thoughts aside and focus on bettering myself, mind, body, and soul, I know that that’s the only thing that will keep me sane when things are out of control.

So, regardless of where you are in life; in a relationship,  in a marriage, heartbroken, or even just happy doing you, understanding that happiness belongs to you is so important.

Most of our lives we search for things that will make us happy.

We have this idea that when we reach a certain age, get married, have kids, obtain a certain job, everything will magically be perfect in our lives and we will achieve permanent happiness.

However, we don’t take into consideration the fact that life is not constant. Things continuously occur that interrupt our life flow and inevitably distort the picture of happiness we have set in our minds.

As a result, we sometimes find ourselves depressed or anxious, unable to muster the courage to function in our daily lives the way we once did.

The truth of the matter is that:

People come and go. They change their minds, they “fall” out of love (although I don’t believe it was ever truly love if they were able to “fall” out of it), they disappoint you, (the list can go on and on), things change, we lose our jobs, we have to move to a new town, you name it. But YOU, YOU will always have YOURSELF. Regardless of where other people go,or what changes in your life, you are with yourself until the day that you die.

If you give your happiness to a temporary person or thing you are susceptible to ending up miserable when it ends up disappointing you.

Taking responsibility for your happiness not only relieves pressure from your loved ones from always being the person you need them to be (although there’s nothing wrong with that when it’s from the heart), but it immensely reduces your stress and even makes you a more desirable person; people are attracted to happy/confident people.

So today, consider the things that you do that make you happy; make a list.

For example, some of the things that make me happy include:

  1. Writing
  2. Deep conversations with cool people.
  3. Spending time with family and friends.

Once you’ve done that, make the conscious effort to not only add these things to your  daily life, but to remember and turn to these things whenever it feels like life is coming down on you.

Practice this over and over until your reaction to difficulty is met with a turn towards things that make you happy rather than despair.

You are more than capable of obtaining and maintaining your happiness.

It’s up to you to take the initiative and recover control of it.