11 Things that Happen When You Learn to Love Yourself

When you learn to love yourself things begin to change in your life.

Like, the couple that realizes that they still love each other after understanding how their partner desires to be loved when we love ourselves right, our lives will reap positive outcomes.

Here are some things that happen when you begin a journey to self-love:

1. You no longer need validation from anyone or anything other than yourself.

This has honestly got to be the most common, yet destructive thing that happens when we don’t love ourselves. We allow our value to be quantified by someone/something else. Whether it be from a romantic or platonic relationship. When you learn to love yourself, you don’t give a flying crap about what anybody thinks about you, because you know that you are beautiful, you are talented, you are capable, all on your own.

2. You turn away/get turned off from anything that does not appreciate your value.

When you learn to love yourself, you can pick up on things that don’t consider all that you are and you want nothing to do with it.

3. Your focus shifts from trying to compete with others to empowering and cheering them on.

It’s such an ugly trait, but when we don’t love ourselves, we belittle ourselves in comparison to others or even stoop to the point of talking down others in order to make ourselves look better. When you finally become satisfied in your skin, you only want to see others satisfied in theirs. Instead of tearing our “competition” down we want to see them be successful, and we cheer them on from the sidelines.

4. Other’s approval becomes secondary to your well-being.

Even though, you love people and you especially want the best for them, you know that you can’t do your best or give your best, if you don’t say no sometimes and take the necessary measures to take care of yourself.

5. You come in contact with things for which you are passionate about.

You begin to pursue things that make you happy, even things you’ve never tried before. Opening doors for your passion to arise.

6. You gravitate towards positive people.

You realize that in order for you to maintain your balance you need to surround yourself around people that are seeking the best out of life, and that becomes your circle.

7. Positive people gravitate towards you.

You attract the kind of person you are.

8. You don’t settle for less than you deserve. 

In any area of your life. Sure, you used to beg for attention, take what you could get, and let life just happen to you. But, now you can’t sit back and take that, you know what you should be receiving and you won’t take anything less.

9. You go for things that you never would have before because you actually believe in yourself.

None of that, I don’t know if I can do this, what if I suck nonsense. Now it’s more of, I can do this, I am capable, I will succeed.

10. You don’t dwell on things that don’t go right in your life, but you learn from your mistakes and move on.

You realize that there’s nothing you can do to change the past, but learn and make sure you don’t do it again. You stay focused on the things that keep you balanced.

11. You move towards becoming the person that you’ve always wanted to be.

Once you learn to love yourself, life becomes more enjoyable and you focus on loving yourself and becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.

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Overall, the journey to self-love is one that leads you to become a WHOLE person.

You are healthy all on your own. You don’t need someone else to make you better, to fix your broken pieces because you realize that you were capable of doing it all on your own.

You are an amazing, beautiful, capable person 💛

Xoxo,

Mara

 

 

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7 Tips for Becoming Intentional about Loving Yourself

As I mentioned in my previous post, loving yourself is something that involves action.

 As a result, like with any other relationship it requires intentionality in order for it to be evidenced.

Today, I’m sharing with you some tips on how you can become intentional about loving yourself:

1. Make a list of all of the areas you would like to work on.

Loving ourselves involves taking care of mind, body, and souls. Therefore, there are many areas that we know we can work on to love ourselves. List each and every one of those areas that you would like to eventually work on. One example is your negative mindset. You can decide that you want to work on becoming a more positive or confident person.

2. Pick one area and Devote yourself to it wholeheartedly. 

You can focus on the area you want to work on by figuring out what that area would like at its best. Do your research. If you want to be more confident, google articles about how to become more confident, what qualities do confident people possess, or simply think about what actions you admire about a person you look up to that you deem as confident. 

3. Give yourself a timeline for when you want to accomplish certain tasks. 

Going back to the confidence topic. If you want to work on being more confident you don’t necessarily need a timeline but definitely need an action plan. You can decide that part of working on your confidence is going to involve dressing in a way that makes you feel fierce. So each night you’ll pick a fierce outfit to wear to work or school and do that faithfully.

4. Remind yourself of your intention, DAILY.

You can plug it into your calendar, put it into your phone, tape it in your bedroom wall. Whatever works for you.

5. Find someone to keep you accountable.

Only if you have someone that you feel comfortable with telling your weaknesses to. This person should be trustworthy and persistent. They shouldn’t hold your weaknesses against you but they should push you to stay focused on what you want to get done.

6. Check in on your progress.

This can be whatever way you would like, but for me, journaling is very effective when used as a tool for self-reflection. Set some time for when you will sit down and write about how you feel. Do you feel more confident? Have you noticed any changes in your life? This will help you to decide if there’s something you need to change or simply give you a little pat on the back when you realize how far you’ve come.

7. Reward yourself.

When you’ve accomplished a goal that you’ve set for yourself, feel free to reward yourself. Treat yourself to some ice cream, buy yourself that thing that’s been on your mind recently to get; do something to celebrate your victories.

 

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Intentionality is all about commitment and persistence. Being intentional about loving yourself is something that deserves all of that and more.

So decide, that you want to love yourself more this year and put in the work so you can see the benefits in your life.

Xoxo,

Mara