As I mentioned in my previous post, loving yourself is something that involves action.
As a result, like with any other relationship it requires intentionality in order for it to be evidenced.
Today, I’m sharing with you some tips on how you can become intentional about loving yourself:
1. Make a list of all of the areas you would like to work on.
Loving ourselves involves taking care of mind, body, and souls. Therefore, there are many areas that we know we can work on to love ourselves. List each and every one of those areas that you would like to eventually work on. One example is your negative mindset. You can decide that you want to work on becoming a more positive or confident person.
2. Pick one area and Devote yourself to it wholeheartedly.
You can focus on the area you want to work on by figuring out what that area would like at its best. Do your research. If you want to be more confident, google articles about how to become more confident, what qualities do confident people possess, or simply think about what actions you admire about a person you look up to that you deem as confident.
3. Give yourself a timeline for when you want to accomplish certain tasks.
Going back to the confidence topic. If you want to work on being more confident you don’t necessarily need a timeline but definitely need an action plan. You can decide that part of working on your confidence is going to involve dressing in a way that makes you feel fierce. So each night you’ll pick a fierce outfit to wear to work or school and do that faithfully.
4. Remind yourself of your intention, DAILY.
You can plug it into your calendar, put it into your phone, tape it in your bedroom wall. Whatever works for you.
5. Find someone to keep you accountable.
Only if you have someone that you feel comfortable with telling your weaknesses to. This person should be trustworthy and persistent. They shouldn’t hold your weaknesses against you but they should push you to stay focused on what you want to get done.
6. Check in on your progress.
This can be whatever way you would like, but for me, journaling is very effective when used as a tool for self-reflection. Set some time for when you will sit down and write about how you feel. Do you feel more confident? Have you noticed any changes in your life? This will help you to decide if there’s something you need to change or simply give you a little pat on the back when you realize how far you’ve come.
7. Reward yourself.
When you’ve accomplished a goal that you’ve set for yourself, feel free to reward yourself. Treat yourself to some ice cream, buy yourself that thing that’s been on your mind recently to get; do something to celebrate your victories.
Intentionality is all about commitment and persistence. Being intentional about loving yourself is something that deserves all of that and more.
So decide, that you want to love yourself more this year and put in the work so you can see the benefits in your life.