Category Archives: self-care

Self-Care Practices to Refresh Your Body and Mind

You know when you’ve had a long of day of work (me today) and you feel like you want to retreat forever. Or when it’s just been a crappy day and things have seemingly not gone right for you. Those days when you’d rather be a b**** and simply tell everyone to f*** off. Those are the days that you should love yourself the most. Those are the days when you should intentionally treat yourself and let your body know that although these things are happening or have happened they by no means define the way the rest of your day or life for that matter is going.

Some ways you can self-care:

1. Take a bath.

Lights down low. Bubbles everywhere. Music playing in the background. Unwind.

2. Read a book.

I’m currently reading The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas and its so freaking good. Stay woke. I try to squeeze in as much time to read it as possible.

3. Do your hair.

For all you naturalistas out there. You know what I’m talking about. It feels great after you detangle your hair, put seem deep conditioner on it and watch it come magically back to life.

4. Connect with good friends.

Friends that don’t judge you. The ones who will go watch Blank Panther with you for the 5th time, stay up late talking about those akward fangirl days (Beliebers out there you know what I mean..), and the ones who will pray with you no matter what situation y’all are both in spiritually. Those friends.


How important is self-care to you? What are some of your self-care practices?




Cultivate Positive Self-Talk

I wish I could accurately explain how mentally transformative practicing positive self-talk is.
When it comes to self-talk the main thing you should understand is:
Words have power. The words we speak and the thoughts we have cause a negative or positive reaction in our lives.
If you are interested in cultivating positive self-talk some ways you can do so are by:
1. Creating Affirmations.
Affirmations are important because they remind you of what it is that you want in your life. If you struggle with negative thoughts about your body and you want to fall in love with your body speaking positive affirmations about it will positively change that relationship between your mind and your body.
2. Gratitude journaling.
I have mentioned it in a previous blog post but expressing gratitude is life-giving.
3. Be your own cheerleader.
Interrupting negative self-talk or anxiety with a pep talk is amazing. Talk to yourself the way you would a friend or a lover. Tell yourself you are okay that you love yourself and that things are working out for your greater good. You will see how your mood will drastically change over time.
What are your thoughts and experiences on cultivating positive self-talk?

Become Intentional about Taking Care of Your Mental Health

Although the average person might not share everything that they experience mentally, as humans we go through a lot. We experience anxiety, which sometimes goes undiagnosed, we go through hardships, feel stress and occasionally have breakdowns. However, we aren’t all taught the necessary skills to cultivate mental strength.
Pursuing good mental health should be a daily intention. In order for us to have long lasting, satisfying lives, there are practices we can implement that will better equip us for when difficult situations arise.
1. Check in with yourself.
You know yourself better than anyone else. You can feel when something is wrong. Don’t ignore it. Acknowledge what you’re feeling and why. This doesn’t mean you have to do anything about it but simply that you understand why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling. Be honest with yourself.
 2. Pause.
Put everything down. Restart your mind. Just like you know why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling the answer for how to proceed is already within you. It is so easy to get distracted by people, things and even your emotions. The answer comes when your silent enough to listen to the answer.
 3. Journal.
Write down what you’re feeling, positive affirmations, or even a gratitude list. There is something cathartic about putting pen to paper.
4. Communicate with your loved ones. 
Let them know you’re okay and express any concerns you might have. They love you and want what’s best for you. Check in with them as well.
5. Forgive yourself.
It is not healthy to constantly dwell on what you’ve done wrong. Don’t let your mistakes become your identity. Take it in. Learn from it. Move on.
6. TRUST in the Universe.
The Universe has your back if you trust it. Intentionally set aside anxiety, fear, and doubt in hope of something good. This is faith. This is peace.
7. Speak life.
Positive affirmations are so powerful. It tricks our brain into believing that what we are saying is true. It gives room for the Universe to manifest what we are speaking.
Will you commit to being intentional about taking care of your mental health? What are some practices that you currently implement in your daily life?

6 Ways to Take Your Power Back

I recently read the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin, and the concept of giving our power away struck a chord with me.

Morin, who is a licensed clinical social worker, psychology instructor, and pshychotherapist, explains, how one of the 13 things that interfere with our mental strength is the conscious or unconscious act of giving power away. 

The overall theme of the chapter focused on the topic is that we give our power away when we let outside factors, things beyond our control, control how we feel and how we act and we don’t take measures to conserve our power.

“Anytime you don’t set healthy emotional and physical boundaries for yourself, you risk giving away your power to other people…Each time you avoid saying no to something you really don’t want, you give your power away” – Amy Morin, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

With that in mind, today I want to share with you guys some tips I think are important in this journey of learning about your power and taking it back:

1. Nourish your soul with truth.

Read empowering books, self-reflect learn, new things; fill yourself with all the good you possibly can. Figure out what’s important to you and what you believe with all your heart.

2.   Practice sticking to your values.

These are always non-negotiable.  Not to say that you shouldn’t take any input or that your opinions won’t change later on. But, if you believe in your core that something is right/important don’t succumb to any outside pressure to go back on it.

3. Don’t allow room in your life for people that don’t respect you.

Your circle should be quaint; quality over quantity. It should be filled with people who tell you the truth but above all respect you. If they don’t, they got to go.

4. Surround yourself with people and things that bring you life.

Pretty self explanatory but if you want good vibes you got to constantly nourish your soul with good things and good people.

5. Practice self-compassion.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Things aren’t always going to work out perfectly. That is life. What matters is how you react to it; what you tell yourself. Encourage yourself the way you would a friend!

6. Love Yourself.

Treat yourself, take yourself out, say nice things to yourself, and you will see that you will not only feel great but you will teach others how to love you and attract the right kind of people to your life.

Overall, taking your power back is hard work but the benefits you will see are amazing.



P.s Y’all should totally check out Amy’s book it’s a very good read!

3 Reasons Why I’m No Longer Claiming Anxiety

I’m not clinically diagnosed with anxiety but I can tell you that I’ve been an anxious person since I can remember.

I’ve been anxious about many things from being around a lot of people, to losing my parents, being rejected and the list goes on and on. I’ve lost sleep, felt sick to my stomach, and felt the need to hide.

When I finally understood that these things were actually symptoms of general anxiety disorder I made the unfortunate mistake of claiming it rather than seeking help.

Not only did that open the door for more anxiousness to manifest itself in my life but it minimized and almost completely eliminated my desire to get better.

However, I’ve realized that my desire to live a happy and healthy life is greater than the negative thoughts that adversely influence my life and sometimes keep me at a stand still.

Here are the three main reasons/driving forces in my decision to no longer claim anxiety:

1. I don’t want it. Sure, I may get anxious occasionally but I refuse to make it a part of who I am.

2. If I don’t claim it, I make room for the mindset in which I can take steps to overcome the things that bring about the anxiousness.

3. I’ve already made progress towards being the person that I want to be and if completely devote myself to it I know will be successful.

For me, it has boiled down to this principle:

Their is power in our words.

Let’s claim positive truths and watch how are lives are transformed for the better.

Let’s passionately seek great things for our lives like self love, self care, joy, peace, motivation (YOU NAME IT).


5 Ways to Re-Center Your Life

Every day we are pulled left and right by the various things that life throws our way.

Whether it be losing a job, having friendship issues or personal issues these things disrupt our peace and leave is feeling anxious, stressed, and sometimes even depressed.

Yet, have you noticed that there are people that still find the courage to be joyful regardless of whatever comes their way?

These people are ones that have been able to find what gives their life balance.

They are able to assess what is going around them and take steps to make sure that they maintain their inner peace no matter how their outer life is looking.

These are five practices that you can implement in order to maintain your balance:


1. Establish a routine for your down days that is loaded with self-care. Eat breakfast even if it’s 6 o’clock in the afternoon, read a book, take the time to get dolled up and take yourself out. These things may seem meaningless but they can actually give you the energy to stay motivated and approach your day from a better light.

2. Get your body moving. Workout, go for a walk, do something that will give your body the blood flow it needs, relax your mind, and release some endorphins while you’re at it.

3. Unplug and connect with yourself. Use this time to connect yourself by journaling for self-reflection, meditating, or doing some deep breathing exercises and note how you feel after a while.

4. Get rid of toxic friendships. The ones who only take but never give. The ones who constantly drain you. Let them go. If you want positive vibes in your life,  you have to surround yourself with people and things that exude positive vibes.

5. Seek counseling. Take the time to talk to someone in confidence. It can be cathartic and you will definitely learn more about yourself in the process.


These are some universal things that you can implement in order to maintain balance in your life.

However, there are practices that aren’t on this list that might be of great benefit to you.

Seek them.

Take the time to figure out what you need to do in order to maintain balance in your life, and stick to it no matter what.


Good luck!



7 Positive Affirmations for Everyday Life

I really wish I could accurately explain how beneficial positive self-talk is to our overall well-being.

All I can say is when you decide to react to circumstances in your life by speaking positive truths, you are able to experience a shift in emotions as well as a balanced change in perspective, over time.

Here are some positive affirmations you can use in your everyday life:

1. I am beautiful, I am unique, I am special. All that I am is enough and amazing. I don’t need to be anybody else but me. (cue Gavin Degraw, OTH fans where you at?:p)

2. I have made a mistake, but I am not a mistake.

3. What I think about myself is more important than what other people think about me.

4. My art is necessary. Even if it touches just one person, and that person is me.

5. I may not be where I want to be yet, but I am on my way there. Everything I am going through is only going to make me better prepared for what is coming.

6. No matter what comes my way today I can handle it gracefully.

7. I don’t need to be in control of everything for everything to be okay. 


You know what the amazing thing about this is?

You don’t have to feel like these things are true in the moment for you to speak them.

However, continue speaking these positive truths and soon enough they become reality in your life.