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The Mystery Blogger Award

Thank you to Reveuse for nominating me for THE MYSTERY BLOGGER AWARD.

You should definitely check out their blog. It is full of great content, positivity and ways to personally grow.


1. Thank whoever nominated you and include a link to their blog.

2. Tell your readers 3 things about your self.

3. Nominate 6-7 bloggers you feel deserve the award.

4. Answer the questions from the person who nominated you.

5. Ask your nominees questions of your choice with one weird or funny one.

6.Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog.


  1. I’m 25 years old.
  2. Singing is my hobby.
  3. I’m a self-help junkie.


1. If you go anywhere, where would you go? Puerto Rico

2. Would you go back in time? to change anything in your life if so what would it be? This is a hard one but I’m going to say no. If I went back in time I would never have met the wonderful people in my life today or experienced the massive growth I’ve had.

3. If you could be an animal what would you choose? A puppy

4. What is your favourite memory? Walking around my childhood neighborhood on my dad’s shoulders.

5. What is your favourite food? Yellow rice and pigeon peas (A traditional Puerto Rican/Caribbean dish)


1. What are you grateful for today?

2. If there were no limitations, where would you want to be in 5 years?

3. What’s one thing you would say to your younger self if you got the chance to meet them?

4. If you could be a food which one would you be?

5. If you could be a superhero which one would you be?


  1. Queens Conquer
  2. Black Bold N Beautiful
  3. Belleza Corner
  4. Simple Ula
  5. Stargasaurs





5 Steps to Move Towards the Life YOU Want

DISCLAIMER: I know that looking at these steps may make it seem easy but transforming your life is HARD work. HOWEVER, I can tell you that it is definitely worth it. When you’re feeling inner peace and experiencing joy you’ll wonder why you didn’t invest in yourself sooner.


From graduating college, to moving into my first apartment, and getting my first career job all in the span of one summer, I can confidently tell you that the last couple of months have been absolutely life-changing. 

When I reflect on all that I’ve accomplished it’s mind blowing. If I were to rewind just a couple of years back the simple thought of all of these things would have caused a level of anxiousness in me.

The real world was (and still can be) unpredictable and intense and the anxiousness in me didn’t allow me to believe that I had it in me to be the person I thought I wanted to be.

Yet if I could take one thing out of this transition it is that:  life is whatever we make of it.

I had always sat back and let life happen to me. Occasionally I mentally visualized these things but it was more of a far away dream. A day dream if you will. I didn’t action plan how it would happen. I wasn’t intentional about working on becoming the person that I wanted to be. So I never I did.

My life is far from perfect and I am still working on bettering myself daily but I am fulfilled, I am happy, I am growing, I am learning, and I am glowing. There’s nothing better than that.

To move towards the life YOU want:

1. Cultivate a positive mindset.

positive mind

What you think is what you will inevitably see. So practice speaking positive affirmations. Dodge negative thoughts. Surround yourself with light.


2. Visualize what you want.

vision board

Imagine what the life you want looks like. Write down you goals with bullet points and action steps underneath or even create a vision board with pictures and words that represent what you want. 

3. “Behave like the person you want to become.”  

The person you want to become is already within you. Let her shine.

4. Believe that you already have what you want.


Have faith that what you want has already taken place in the future. So act like it’s already yours.

5. Receive it.


A day from now, a month from now, receive it.


A future, happy, fulfilled, glowing you is waiting on you. Set her free. I believe in you. 



3 Reasons Why I’m No Longer Claiming Anxiety

I’m not clinically diagnosed with anxiety but I can tell you that I’ve been an anxious person since I can remember.

I’ve been anxious about many things from being around a lot of people, to losing my parents, being rejected and the list goes on and on. I’ve lost sleep, felt sick to my stomach, and felt the need to hide.

When I finally understood that these things were actually symptoms of general anxiety disorder I made the unfortunate mistake of claiming it rather than seeking help.

Not only did that open the door for more anxiousness to manifest itself in my life but it minimized and almost completely eliminated my desire to get better.

However, I’ve realized that my desire to live a happy and healthy life is greater than the negative thoughts that adversely influence my life and sometimes keep me at a stand still.

Here are the three main reasons/driving forces in my decision to no longer claim anxiety:

1. I don’t want it. Sure, I may get anxious occasionally but I refuse to make it a part of who I am.

2. If I don’t claim it, I make room for the mindset in which I can take steps to overcome the things that bring about the anxiousness.

3. I’ve already made progress towards being the person that I want to be and if completely devote myself to it I know will be successful.

For me, it has boiled down to this principle:

Their is power in our words.

Let’s claim positive truths and watch how are lives are transformed for the better.

Let’s passionately seek great things for our lives like self love, self care, joy, peace, motivation (YOU NAME IT).


11 Things that Happen When You Learn to Love Yourself

When you learn to love yourself things begin to change in your life.

Like, the couple that realizes that they still love each other after understanding how their partner desires to be loved when we love ourselves right, our lives will reap positive outcomes.

Here are some things that happen when you begin a journey to self-love:

1. You no longer need validation from anyone or anything other than yourself.

This has honestly got to be the most common, yet destructive thing that happens when we don’t love ourselves. We allow our value to be quantified by someone/something else. Whether it be from a romantic or platonic relationship. When you learn to love yourself, you don’t give a flying crap about what anybody thinks about you, because you know that you are beautiful, you are talented, you are capable, all on your own.

2. You turn away/get turned off from anything that does not appreciate your value.

When you learn to love yourself, you can pick up on things that don’t consider all that you are and you want nothing to do with it.

3. Your focus shifts from trying to compete with others to empowering and cheering them on.

It’s such an ugly trait, but when we don’t love ourselves, we belittle ourselves in comparison to others or even stoop to the point of talking down others in order to make ourselves look better. When you finally become satisfied in your skin, you only want to see others satisfied in theirs. Instead of tearing our “competition” down we want to see them be successful, and we cheer them on from the sidelines.

4. Other’s approval becomes secondary to your well-being.

Even though, you love people and you especially want the best for them, you know that you can’t do your best or give your best, if you don’t say no sometimes and take the necessary measures to take care of yourself.

5. You come in contact with things for which you are passionate about.

You begin to pursue things that make you happy, even things you’ve never tried before. Opening doors for your passion to arise.

6. You gravitate towards positive people.

You realize that in order for you to maintain your balance you need to surround yourself around people that are seeking the best out of life, and that becomes your circle.

7. Positive people gravitate towards you.

You attract the kind of person you are.

8. You don’t settle for less than you deserve. 

In any area of your life. Sure, you used to beg for attention, take what you could get, and let life just happen to you. But, now you can’t sit back and take that, you know what you should be receiving and you won’t take anything less.

9. You go for things that you never would have before because you actually believe in yourself.

None of that, I don’t know if I can do this, what if I suck nonsense. Now it’s more of, I can do this, I am capable, I will succeed.

10. You don’t dwell on things that don’t go right in your life, but you learn from your mistakes and move on.

You realize that there’s nothing you can do to change the past, but learn and make sure you don’t do it again. You stay focused on the things that keep you balanced.

11. You move towards becoming the person that you’ve always wanted to be.

Once you learn to love yourself, life becomes more enjoyable and you focus on loving yourself and becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.


Overall, the journey to self-love is one that leads you to become a WHOLE person.

You are healthy all on your own. You don’t need someone else to make you better, to fix your broken pieces because you realize that you were capable of doing it all on your own.

You are an amazing, beautiful, capable person 💛





5 Truths about Loving Yourself

The term “love yourself” seems pretty self-explanatory, right?

We love our families, we love our friends, our pets, so, loving ourselves wouldn’t be any different?

The thing is, most often than not, we solely prescribe the emotion of love to ourselves but not the action.

Sure the average person would agree with the statement, “yes, I love myself”. They don’t want to die, they try to be safe, and they may occasionally splurge for the benefit of their health (stress, anxiety, etc.) but that’s normally where it ends.

However, just like it isn’t enough for another to tell us they love us and without proving it with their actions, it is not enough for us to say we love ourselves and not prove it with our actions.

I get it, though, it’s easy to let the actions of love towards ourselves fall by the wayside because who’s going to hold us accountable? No one. (Unless you have amazing friends that are on you about these things).

If you’ll hear me out for a minute (or the rest of this post) I want to share with you some truths about loving yourself that will show just how important it can be:

1. Loving ourselves is beneficial to our well-being. 

No matter how amazing it might sound to think that someone else can love us enough to mend us, no one can mend us like ourselves. Yes, outside love might put a little balm on our aching souls, but it is the hard earned love from ourselves that will completely heal us and make us strong enough to conquer this thing called life.

2. Loving ourselves involves intentionality. 

Like I mentioned before, it is not enough to simply say we love ourselves and not prove it with our actions. In order for us to see the benefits of loving ourselves in our lives, we need to be intentional about taking care of our mind, body, and spirit.  This means we need to sit down, create an action plan with a timeline and get it done because it’s important to us and we want to flourish and be at our best capacity.

3. Loving ourselves does not equate to selfishness.

Loving ourselves can sometimes bring about the misconception that we’re being selfish. Truthfully, I think this only manifests itself in one of two ways. One, it comes from us because we are so used to being kind and not wanting to disappoint people, that we feel guilty and therefore selfish that we’re no longer saying yes all the time. Two, it comes from another person who either a) doesn’t know you and confuses your assertiveness for selfishness or b) does know you, and in their disappointment prescribes selfishness to your new lifestyle choice rather than assertiveness. Regardless, you are not selfish for making decisions that benefit your well-being, even if it doesn’t sit well with other people.

4. Loving ourselves well, allows us to love others better.

This is what those who call you selfish don’t understand. Sure, you may deny some of yourself for the sake of your well-being, but that’s just it, it’s for your well-being. In the long run, you’ll be more present in the things you are involved in, and you’ll be better able to understand how to love other people.

5. Loving ourselves teaches us about who we are.

It’s funny because all of our lives, we spend trying to figure out who we are, what we want in life, and what we should do. We exert energy putting ourselves down when we don’t measure up to other people, when we haven’t gotten to the point we wanted to yet and have this screaming fear that maybe what we’re doing isn’t going to make us happy for 75 to 100 years. But if we took the time to love ourselves intentionally, we would realize, first of all, that everything’s going to be okay, even if it doesn’t feel like it, it is. And that we are capable beyond what we ever would have imagined to do things and feel things that make life so much worth living for us.



Loving yourself is a lifestyle. It is something that requires intentionality and sacrifice but that will have amazing benefits on your life if you allow it to. (For some ideas on how to begin loving yourself check out this post 🙂 )

You’re going to be living with yourself for a really long time you might as well learn to love yourself now and focus on making the best of your time with the one who will always be there.

Good luck on your journey!



5 Lessons 2016 Taught Me 

Dang, here we are again…

Another year has passed us by, and we have just ushered in a new one.

It’s kind of crazy to think that when many of us look back on 2016 we can overwhelmingly say that 2016 was one of the suckiest years.

As a nation, we have experienced, a number of tragedies, from the largest mass shooting, as well as many acts of police brutality, and to top it off one of the worst presidential elections.

And in their personal lives?

Some can attest to the same.

HOWEVER, I am a firm believer that there are always lessons that can be gained from even the most horrible life experiences.

It may not be what we want, or what we would have liked it to be, but if we take the time to reflect on 2016 we’ll realize that it held some positive and if nothing we can uncover even a few valuable lessons that have shaped us.

Today, I have decided to share with you a few of the lessons 2016 has taught me:

1. Emotions, like food within the heat of a cooker pressure for too long, will eventually explode into our daily lives if unaddressed.

You don’t really realize it until a series of events take place in your life and you find yourself not being able to handle them the way you normally do, but emotions are not something to take lightly. Whether you’re sad, mad, angry, hurt, whatever it is for whatever reason, it’s important to find a healthy way to address it. Talk to someone, journal it, do whatever works best for you, but get those bad boys out at your pace and in the comfort of your privacy before they spill out without your permission.

2. [l]ife is what happens when we’re busy distracted by meaningless things and sulking about the sucky parts. 

Okay, so this one is a bit harsh, but true nonetheless. There’s no denying that life is a rollercoaster ride, and it will always be. However, in order to make the most of it, I learned that we need to wake up and be intentional about enjoying life despite its ups and downs. Life can turn out to be unbelievably amazing when we choose not to dwell on the negative, but rather look for the positive in everything and remain hopeful.

3. It’s OK to be selfish; happiness should be our top priority.

If we don’t take care of ourselves we can’t adequately take care of others. Simple as that. Yes, some people may become upset at us because of it, but we’ll never be our best selves or reach our potentials if we live life walking on eggs shells just to keep other people happy.

4. No matter how far I stray, no one has my back like God does. 

Faith has been an integral part of my life for a really long time and even though 2016 didn’t see the main cause for its fracture, it definitely saw its biggest hit. However, even though I seemingly completly 180’d, God never left me. Like ya’ll don’t even know how good God came through for me and  I don’t think I’d learn this lesson better any other way. This is not to say that my faith is perfect now, but I definitely know he has my back like no one else and that’s enough for me right now.

5. Loving yourself is a catalyst for overwhelming life transformation.

This one statement is literally the cure for all of the previous lessons. That might sound like a crazy thing to say but think about it. If I had learned to love myself I wouldn’t hold emotions in, I would make the most of life because that’s what’s best for me and I would understand that sometimes my happiness comes at the expense of things but that doesn’t mean that God isn’t there and that he doesn’t love me regardless. Mind blowing, right? I’m glad I realize that now.


Well, that’s all folks. LOL.

Seriously, though, I hope that these lessons have benefited you in one way or another and that they inspire you to take some time to reflect on 2016 and find the gems that are buried in it.

I wish you the best and happy new year loves!



P.S. Stay tuned for an updated about me post, including new post schedule and the theme for this year’s blog series. X