5 Tips on How to Build Your Confidence

Yes, that’s Selena Gomez. She’s queen, and continues to slay my life haha. Anyways, today I want to give you guys some tips that have helped me be more confident. This is not to say that I’m always confident, that’s a daily decision, and as we all know some days are harder than others. However, these are things that I’ve noticed that have helped me to be at my prime with confidence. I hope these can be of help to you. Here they go:

Tip #1: Don’t compare yourself to others.

The fact of the matter is that you are not and cannot be any person other than yourself. Comparing yourself to other people seeps the life out of you. You become disheartened when you see that no matter what you do it doesn’t come out or look just like it does on so and so. You’re beautiful. Your body is beautiful. Focus on taking care of yourself and embracing all of what you have to offer.

Tip #2: Be real.

Don’t hide who you are. If you’re goofy be goofy, if you like crocheting, crochet the heck out of whatever you want. Don’t be afraid to let people see everything that is you. For so long I tried to be what I’ve thought other people would like to see. A girl that is outgoing, has a cute laugh, likes to do girly things etc, but I wasn’t happy. I’m happiest when I say what’s on my mind, when I talk about books or my favorite artists’ new songs etc. When I’m one hundred percent me.

Tip #3: Be the best version of yourself.

It doesn’t matter what other people do, if they don’t give their best in all that they do. Don’t be mediocre. There’s satisfaction and results in giving your best in whatever you have to do whether that be school, work, personal life, etc. Work for the A, try your best, dress up, and know that you’re always giving your all, and if it doesn’t always workout the way you want to you’ve given your best. Everything else is a part of life.

Tip #4: Speak life into yourself.

Don’t feed yourself negativity and then expect to birth a positive life. Remind yourself daily of the truths that you want to believe rather than all of the negative lies. You can do many things like put sticky notes all over your room, get an inspirational journal; many things. Whatever it may be make sure to surround yourself with truth and leave no room for drowning in negativity.

Some truths that I like to remind myself of:

  • I am fearfully and wonderfully made” – ‭‭Psalm‬ ‭139:14‬ ‭NIV‬‬
  • “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”- ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31:30‬ ‭NIV‬‬
  • “No one can make me feel inferior, without my consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt
  • “I am in competition with no one. I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone. I am simply trying to be better than the person I was yesterday.”
  • “Everyday may not be good but three is something good in every day.”

Tip #5: Exercise.

Take care of your body. Not only will your body thank you for it in the long run but you will feel better. You don’t have to exercise to look like anything or anyone but exercise because it’s good for your body and you want to do things that are beneficial to it.

Well, that’s all. I hope these tips can be of help to you guys. Let me know in the comment section what are things that you do to boost your confidence. Love you, always.

Xoxo,

Mara

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Tips for Getting Good Grades

Hello beautiful people! Thank you for stopping by my page! I have recently decided to focus my blog for the time being on how to accomplish your 2016 goals. For the next couple of months I will be posting about different topics such as exercise, grades, confidence, etc. topics that I think people might have centered some of their goals for the new year around and I will be providing some tips you can use to accomplish some of those things. I’ve decided to start with school because I’ve just gone back to college and I figured some of you guys might be in the same boat as me and will want to work your butt off to start of the semester strong with good grades. So, these are some things that I implented last semester that were actually very helpful and allowed me to accomplish my goal of getting all As. Some of these things may or may not work for you but I hope at least some of them will benefit you the way they did me. Okay so here we go:
Tip #1:

Set out time you will study/do the homework for each individual class you have. I like to take 1-2 hours to work on what I need to get done for each class the day before I have that class. In that time, I bring everything I need for that class: books, notebook, pen, highlighters, etc. and like I said I dedicate that time to get everything I need to get done to be successful in that class. 

Tip #2:

Have some background music going. Now this might not be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine. However, I’ve found that putting study music in the background, especially when I have to read a chapter, helps me to focus on what I’m reading. I don’t know if this is true, I haven’t timed myself, but I feel like I even read faster that when I do that. Who knows? That would definitely be a plus.

This a link to a video that I like to listen to when I study: https://youtu.be/2JQsf7i_dXY 

Tip #3:

Make an outline of your notes. If I have to do reading for a particular class I like to make an outline of my own with all of the main topics that were discussed in the chapter. If it is easier you can just go by every bolded headline written in the chapter. While I’m reading I write down within each headline things that I think are important. I then like to leave space within each headline so I can later add notes that I get from the professor in class. You could also make seperate notes for in class if you prefer that. However, keep them all in the same area so that you’re not scrambling for them when it’s time to study for a test.

Tip #4:

Take breaks. I would say work on your homework consistently for at least an hour before taking a timed break. Now, I say work consistently before taking a break because you will actually get work done, feel accomplished, and your break will fee more deserved. These breaks can range from 15-30 minutes depending on what you prefer. Remember though if you take a really long break you probably won’t feel motivated to start working again after, keep that in mind when your deciding how long you’ll break for. 

Tip #5:

Use sticky notes. If there’s something that stands out to you while you’re reading put a sticky note on it in case you want to refer back to it at some other point. Also, if there’s something you don’t understand and need to ask your teacher about in class a sticky note is perfect.

Tip #6:

Ask questions. If you don’t understand something ask. The fact is that someone else probably needs the answers as much as you and you’ll benefit yourself and someone else. If anything think about this, these people, your teachers/professors, they are there to help you. They are getting paid to teach you something, take advantage of that. Especially if you’re paying yourself for your education!

I hope these tips are helpful. This is what I’ve been doing recently and have found that I’ve been successful as a result. Good luck, and I wish you all the academic success you desire!

Xoxo,

Mara

Inside Out

So although I might be really behind with watching this movie, this weekend I watched the “children’s” movie Inside Out. Now, I put the word children in quotes because although the movie is an animated Disney movie directed at a children audience it leaves a lot to think about for teenagers and adults. The movie shows us how emotions such as fear, joy, sadness, anger, and disgust control the actions of a girl since the day she was born and actually gives us so much perspective on human nature. After, becoming very intrigued by the movie and watching how the girl grows up and ends up losing joy and sadness after a fight between the two because of sadness’ desire to touch the little girl’s critical memories (which meant that they would forever be tinged with sadness) I started to think about which emotions governed my actions. Throughout her entire life, up until she lost joy, the little girl’s emotions were primarily governed by joy and somewhat assisted by the others when necessary. Thinking back on my life, I’ve always been governed by fear (the nervous wreck) first, and then joy (the one that wants to be happy and see the good in everything) last. Fear had me questioning whether I should join the club I was interested in, whether I should talk to the boy I liked, or raise my hand in class. While, joy was the real me the one that was excited about signing and would love to join anything involving music, that had a sense of humor that would have me holding back tears of laughter in class so that I wouldn’t seem like a crazy person. I want to primarly be governed by joy. Recently in my life I have been making changes, working on becoming a better me and trying to have my life put together. However, I haven’t made much room for joy to take over. I’ve decided that not only do I want to take her out and let her take the reigns every once in a while, I am going to. She’s an essential part of me, the me I want to be. I don’t know what emotions have governed your life or are governing it now but I hope that you may allow the emotions that make you happy, the one that are true to who you are, shine and that the things that have happened in your life don’t burry those essential emotions. You are amazing and deserve to live happy satisfying lives. Love you always!

Xoxo,

Mara

10 Things I Learned in 2015

So I just want to start off by saying 2015 has been a really intense year for me. I lost loved ones, I lost myself, and I lost friendships that were dear to me. However, I also gained a lot. All of these things I’ve learned are big and come from finally getting to a place in my life in which I was dissatisfied to the point of action and as a result I was able to grow.

Here it goes:

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I am enough. It’s okay if someone doesn’t like me whether that be a boy, a classmate, or anyone. The fact that someone doesn’t see value in me does not devalue me or completely erase my value. I’m valuable regardless.

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Fear holds you back from amazing life changing/growing experiences. There’s so much to see, do and learn from that you miss out on when you don’t step out even in fear.

3. It’s okay not to be okay. I don’t have to be perfect and pretend to be something I’m not. That’s exhausting. Transparency is relieving and gains you respect.

4. I am capable of doing ANYTHING I set my mind. Straight As, a blog, a new job; I can do that.

5. Appreciate and hold on to the people in your life who check in on you, who tell you the truth because they love you and don’t have ulterior motives for being your friend.

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If Justin Bieber can make the comeback he did so can I. Haha I love Justin (yup this girl is a belieber) and you can’t deny his comeback was epic.

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  I don’t need to compare myself to others. I’m me and that’s enough. I will never be anyone else. I have my own talents, dreams and desires and am not on the same journey as anyone else.

8. I love to write. I may not be amazing at it but writing is definetly a passion of mine and something I want to continue to pursue even as a hobby.

9. Not everything that people say about me is true. Just because someone thinks I’m weird or I can’t do something doesn’t mean that what they think is true will come to pass or has to be my truth.

10. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect in my life for me to be happy. So what if I’m not at the place I thought I’d be at this point in my life. I’m alive, I’m blessed and I’m determined to progress (that rhymed lol).

Well, that’s it. I hope these inspired you in any way. Let me know what you think, do any of these resonate with you? What did you learn in 2015? Love you always!

Xoxo,

Mara

Goals and 2016

First, I want to start off by saying guys I’m done!! Haha I literally just submitted my last assignment of this semester hence I’ve begun winter break and needless to say I’M HAPPY. But anyways enough about school I can think about that in a month from now (eep). So today I came up with the logical conclusion that since last week I felt like motivating you guys to follow through with your goals and step out of your comfort zone I should probably give you a little insight as to how I go about goal setting and just getting prepared for the new year. Normally, I sit down and just make list of things that I want to work on. I set each of them up into a well worded sentence stating exactly what I would like to accomplish in the new year and that’s it. However, this year I went about it a little bit differently. I decided that I would start off by making a list of all of my priorities. For example:

  1. Faith
  2. Family/Friends
  3. School
  4. Work/Career
  5. Me

Yes, I put myself last. I don’t consider myself unimportant but I’ve always tended to prioritize other things before myself. So after making this list of priorities I decided to work within them. I asked myself what goal or thing do I want to accomplish or get better with in the new year that falls within these categories of things that are important to me. For example:

  1. Faith – Spend more time doing things that help me grow in my faith such as doing daily devotionals.
  2. Family/Friends – Deepen my relationship with my family and friends by planning to go out with x people/ person once a month.
  3. School – Succeed in my classes by allotting unchanging time slots to spend doing work for each of my classes. Specifically 1-2 hours per class.
  4. Work/Career – Get involved in volunteer or community service projects that will help me get a feel of x careers that I am interested in.
  5. Me – Be healthy. Exercise twice a week. 

After you’ve brainstormed all of these things that you would like to work on for the new year, clean it up. This is just an overview of what I did but you should go deeper be specific with what you want and create an action plan. Also, I would definitely type it up on a word document and save it. Spend some time looking it over before the new year and then leave it alone. I assure you that you know your goals and don’t constantly need to be looking back and forth at it the first months of the year. Your goals come from your priorities, they’re important to you. Determine that this is what you want to do and then do it. 

  
Once this time rolls around again next year sit down, pull up the document and examine your year. (If a year is too long you could also do a mid year review in the summer). Ask yourself if you were successful in accomplishing your goals. Was it because you did it the way you set out or did you veer down a different path and get the same or different results? Note that. If you didn’t succeed in one of them ask yourself what you could change to make this goal happen and if it is still something that you are interested in pursuing in the new year. Remember this a process. If you’re not used to organizing yourself and living a life in which you pursue goals intently ( this has been me all of my life) this will be a struggle but it’s possible if you allow it to be. Like I said last week, I believe in you. You’ve got this. 

  
Well until next week! Love you always ❤

Xoxo,

Mara

New Year and Resolutions 

When brainstorming what I could possibly write about this Monday the thought popped into my head dude the years about to be over in less than three weeks! What better than to talk about the infamous New Year resolutions that are most likely bombarding your social media sites and attacking your mind as a result. Now don’t get me wrong when I say the word infamous I don’t by any means mean to downplay resolutions as something of no importance or effectiveness but I’m rather calling out the obviousness of its hype around this time of the year and the high percentage of non success in most people’s lives in about three months from now. I can truthfully say that until this year that was me. I would make list after list year after year but never saw any true results from them. For example, one resolution I had last year was to work on my health and to do so by joining a gym in the new year. January rolled around and yes I went to the gym once a week for about a month, but as per usual I then gradually stopped going for one excuse or another. 2015 definitely started off that way for all of my resolutions. However, by the beginning of this school semester I had a fire burning up inside of me against the mediocrity that was my life. I was tired of not having friends, of not doing anything with my life and letting fear rule over me. So I took action. I decided that I was going to make the effort to talk to people in my classes and go to clubs that interested me and I did. One of my resolutions was just that; to be more outgoing and to make friends. And would you believe it I have friends now?! I made more friends in one semester than I have in all of the years I’ve been attending university. So what do I want to tell you guys with this? Yes, make plans, make plans and goals for next year that your heart so desires to see accomplished, but you’re never going to see any results if you don’t make consistent effort and push yourself to do things that are out of your comfort zone in order to see your goals come true. Was I terrified of talking to new people? Yes! I’ve been socially awkward my whole life (legit this is not a lie) but stepping out even if your in fear is totally worth it because you will definitely see the results in the long run. I believe in you! Now just believe in yourself and kick 2016’s butt! Love y’all always ❤

Xoxo,

Mara

 

 

A little bit about me

Where do I start? This is all so new to me; writing, sharing my thoughts with a world that is so big and scary and full of people that have constantly proven to be ruthless when expressing their opinions on other peoples actions but I guess that very same thing has been what has impulsed me to do this. Because you know what? it’s facing those fears that helps you to see that not everyone is ruthless and that there is actually a lot of beautiful things in this world that we miss out on when we let fear hold us back. Well, I’m just a regular girl, some would say young woman but trust me I’m still a girl at heart, that has lived twenty-three long and somehow painfully beautiful years on this place we call earth. After what seems like an eternity I have finally made it to my final year of college, (as some of you may know things don’t always go as planned and it sometimes takes you more than those 4 years you believed you were gonna take to get your degree), and will be graduating next fall from BSU 🐾 with a degree in Spanish and History. Now don’t let that fool you, I’m still not one hundred percent sure of what I’m going to do with said degrees but I’m content with reaching this point in my life and am expectant to see where God takes me in the future. With this page, I’m excited to share bits and pieces of my life with the world and hopefully be able to inspire or help others in some way or another. I’m not perfect but my heart is big and my intentions are good and I hope that we can all grow and journey together through this thing we call life.