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3 Reasons Why I’m No Longer Claiming Anxiety

I’m not clinically diagnosed with anxiety but I can tell you that I’ve been an anxious person since I can remember.

I’ve been anxious about many things from being around a lot of people, to losing my parents, being rejected and the list goes on and on. I’ve lost sleep, felt sick to my stomach, and felt the need to hide.

When I finally understood that these things were actually symptoms of general anxiety disorder I made the unfortunate mistake of claiming it rather than seeking help.

Not only did that open the door for more anxiousness to manifest itself in my life but it minimized and almost completely eliminated my desire to get better.

However, I’ve realized that my desire to live a happy and healthy life is greater than the negative thoughts that adversely influence my life and sometimes keep me at a stand still.

Here are the three main reasons/driving forces in my decision to no longer claim anxiety:

1. I don’t want it. Sure, I may get anxious occasionally but I refuse to make it a part of who I am.

2. If I don’t claim it, I make room for the mindset in which I can take steps to overcome the things that bring about the anxiousness.

3. I’ve already made progress towards being the person that I want to be and if completely devote myself to it I know will be successful.

For me, it has boiled down to this principle:

Their is power in our words.

Let’s claim positive truths and watch how are lives are transformed for the better.

Let’s passionately seek great things for our lives like self love, self care, joy, peace, motivation (YOU NAME IT).

Xoxo,
Mara
 
 

8 Things You Can Do When You’re Feeling Anxious

I am an anxious person.

If you ask any of my closest friends they will tell you the struggle I go through when I faced with a seemingly stressful situation.

I go into panic mode.

I overthink, I analyze, and if it’s really bad I get compulsive, I cry, squeeze my head, curl up etc…

Now, I don’t do these things in front of anyone, I keep my anxiousness contained; only sharing it with people I trust.

However, it’s not healthy and that’s why I have recently focused on being intentional about finding ways to cope with it.

I have taken the time to think about things that relax me in order to get my mind off the problem at hand so that I can eventually think clearly on how to act.

These are some the things that work for me:

  • Listening to calming music – I literally go on YouTube and open a video with music that is soothing, put my headphones on and disengage from the world.
  • Writing – What I am doing right now. Some of my best content has come from moments when I have needed to disengage and have grabbed my laptop and decided to work on a blog post.
  • Disconnecting from Social Media – Sometimes this can be compulsive for me but it doesn’t always have to be. The thing is to literally put the phone away for a while and not constantly stare at it thinking about not going on social media.
  • Getting some fresh air – I prefer going for a walk but since it’s cold out now I just crack a window open and let the cold air hit me as I snuggle in a blanket. I sit there and take in nature in front of me. There’s something soothing about admiring the beauty of the world void of any other voices.
  • Spending time with friends – This could be watching a movie or going out just doing something fun that will make you feel good.
  • Watching funny videos – I unknowingly started doing this a while ago when I was going through a tough time, but it’s so beneficial. I got into watching Julioangeltpr and LeJuan James on Vine. They had me laughing so hard I cried. And they say “laughter is the best medicine”.
  • Going to Target – Okay so I don’t know how beneficial this is financially LOL. However, for me, there is something calming about walking the aisles of Target. It’s so aesthetically pleasing. I especially love going to the office supplies section and tend to purchase more journals than I actually need.
  • Talking to a counselor – I would include talking to a friend as well but if you have experienced anxiousness enough you know that eventually you become fearful you are going to exhaust your friends. A counselor is trained and prepared to listen to us and give us advice. Although our friends love us and mean well a counselor can give an unbiased perspective.

The main theme with all of these is separating oneself from the problem or finding someone, like a counselor that can help us see the bigger picture.

This does not mean conflict avoidance but rather taking the time to clear your mind in order to be able to better address it.

I have found that the worst decisions I’ve made are when I act on my anxiousness without thinking and the best decisions are when I take the time to clear my mind and carefully think about what I should do.

Please note that I am aware that some of these things are symptoms that require special attention and can be a result of General Anxiety Disorder. There is nothing wrong with that. It’s important to seek the help we need.

Also, know that being an anxious person doesn’t make you any less valuable or lovable. It just means that there’s an area in your life that is difficult and requires special attention to get through. It’s not, however, a reflection on who you are. You are amazing.

Keep your head up, beautiful.

Xoxo,

Mara

10 Things I Wish I Knew in High School

 

Like many young adults around the world, high school wasn’t really the most amazing experience for me. This was due in large part because I was internally battling with a lot of anxiety. The cafeteria was a daily struggle feeling the pressure of hundreds of students surrounding me, afraid of siting alone; being an outcast. Also, there was the struggle of not being confident enough to express myself through my clothing or certain interests. Today, although I have made peace with my past, if I had the opportunity to give my 14-year-old self some advice before entering high school I would. So here’s a list of things I would say to freshman Mara:

1. They’re not as scary as they look. Talk to people, crack a joke, make friends. They’re more often than not just as terrified as you. You may make them comfortable enough to open up and maybe even start a friendship.

2. Those people who look down on you. The ones who think they’re the coolest thing to walk the earth. Their coolness won’t matter once they exit this school. Everyone goes back to 0 once this is over and none of this will matter anymore. It’ll all be but a distant memory of when you were young.

3. Wear whatever you want and act the way you are. It doesn’t matter if they don’t like you or what you’re wearing so long as you do.

4. Join clubs. Even if you don’t think you’re good at something, just go for it. Who knows you might actually find you really like it or good at it.

5. Spirit Week is fun. Go show some school pride, make some cool memories.

6. You are beautiful. All of you is beautiful, your face, your hands, your hips, your legs. All of it. A guy that doesn’t appreciate all of you, does not deserve you.

7. As a matter of fact, don’t even bother dating. You are so young and have a whole life ahead of you to date. Focus on getting to know who you are; your likes, your dislikes, everything. Let love come when it comes.

8. Fangirl as much as your little heart desires. Although it doesn’t matter if you do it when you’re older, this is the only time when you will really have time. So beg your parents to go to concerts, make friends that are into the music you like and simply enjoy it. You might not know this now but music is what you love.

9. Speak up, even if you think you might sound “stupid”, which you won’t. Say what’s on your mind. Not only might you benefit others but you can benefit yourself.

10. Give your all in everything. Honestly, it’s one of the most rewarding feelings you can experience. Not only will you get good grades but you will unleash your potential and might even find passion for something you didn’t know you had.

There it is. This is the advice I would give my 14-year-old self. Is there anything you would add? Let me know in the comment section. Love you always.

Xoxo,

Mara