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3 Truths to Consider When Starting Any Journey

“Before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we’ve learned as we’ve moved toward that dream. That’s the point at which most people give up. It’s the point at which, as we say in the language of the desert, one ‘dies of thirst just when the palm trees have appeared on the horizon.”
― Paulo CoelhoThe Alchemist

There’s a plethora of advice on the internet about how to enter certain journeys. These journeys can range from self-love to mental health to spiritual growth. You name it. The majority of articles, YouTube videos, and conferences that you’ll find break these journeys down into simple how to steps. I’m guilty of it, just check out my last post. These forums are super helpful because they provide people with digestible ways to enter or put in place practices in such important journey. However, most lack one thing. They don’t inform people about how truly difficult the journey actually is.

When entering any journey it is important to consider the following:

1. It will not happen overnight. 

I would certainly love for it to be that easy. It would have saved me a lot of headaches in my journeys but unfortunately it’s not. The journey varies for everyone. Sometimes it can take a couple of weeks, sometimes a couple of months, maybe even years. But, the truth of the matter is it will most certainly not happen in the blink of an eye. So sit back, buckle up and get comfortable.

2. You will experience growing pains. 

The fact that you’re on journey means that you are moving towards a place you’ve never been to before. You’re growing. And just like a baby who is beginning to teeth, we will hurt, we will cry, and we won’t understand why we even decided to commence on this journey to begin with. Growing pains can look like plateauing and feeling like it’s not worth it anymore. It can look like having your loved ones turn on you because they think you’ve changed. It’s going to hurt.

3. It is absolutely worth it.

Not only will you learn how to handle the lows and appreciate all of the highs. You, dear friend, will gain a better understanding of who you are and what you value. And when you’ve reached your destination you won’t give give a flying crap about what anybody thinks of that.

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What journey are you on right now?

I encourage you to commit to it.

That self-love, that personal growth, that passion for life looks great on you.

Xoxo,

Mara

 

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5 Steps to Move Towards the Life YOU Want

DISCLAIMER: I know that looking at these steps may make it seem easy but transforming your life is HARD work. HOWEVER, I can tell you that it is definitely worth it. When you’re feeling inner peace and experiencing joy you’ll wonder why you didn’t invest in yourself sooner.

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From graduating college, to moving into my first apartment, and getting my first career job all in the span of one summer, I can confidently tell you that the last couple of months have been absolutely life-changing. 

When I reflect on all that I’ve accomplished it’s mind blowing. If I were to rewind just a couple of years back the simple thought of all of these things would have caused a level of anxiousness in me.

The real world was (and still can be) unpredictable and intense and the anxiousness in me didn’t allow me to believe that I had it in me to be the person I thought I wanted to be.

Yet if I could take one thing out of this transition it is that:  life is whatever we make of it.

I had always sat back and let life happen to me. Occasionally I mentally visualized these things but it was more of a far away dream. A day dream if you will. I didn’t action plan how it would happen. I wasn’t intentional about working on becoming the person that I wanted to be. So I never I did.

My life is far from perfect and I am still working on bettering myself daily but I am fulfilled, I am happy, I am growing, I am learning, and I am glowing. There’s nothing better than that.

To move towards the life YOU want:

1. Cultivate a positive mindset.

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What you think is what you will inevitably see. So practice speaking positive affirmations. Dodge negative thoughts. Surround yourself with light.

 

2. Visualize what you want.

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Imagine what the life you want looks like. Write down you goals with bullet points and action steps underneath or even create a vision board with pictures and words that represent what you want. 

3. “Behave like the person you want to become.”  

The person you want to become is already within you. Let her shine.

4. Believe that you already have what you want.

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Have faith that what you want has already taken place in the future. So act like it’s already yours.

5. Receive it.

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A day from now, a month from now, receive it.

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A future, happy, fulfilled, glowing you is waiting on you. Set her free. I believe in you. 

Xoxo,

Mara

6 Ways to Take Your Power Back

I recently read the book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin, and the concept of giving our power away struck a chord with me.

Morin, who is a licensed clinical social worker, psychology instructor, and pshychotherapist, explains, how one of the 13 things that interfere with our mental strength is the conscious or unconscious act of giving power away. 

The overall theme of the chapter focused on the topic is that we give our power away when we let outside factors, things beyond our control, control how we feel and how we act and we don’t take measures to conserve our power.

“Anytime you don’t set healthy emotional and physical boundaries for yourself, you risk giving away your power to other people…Each time you avoid saying no to something you really don’t want, you give your power away” – Amy Morin, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

With that in mind, today I want to share with you guys some tips I think are important in this journey of learning about your power and taking it back:

1. Nourish your soul with truth.

Read empowering books, self-reflect learn, new things; fill yourself with all the good you possibly can. Figure out what’s important to you and what you believe with all your heart.

2.   Practice sticking to your values.

These are always non-negotiable.  Not to say that you shouldn’t take any input or that your opinions won’t change later on. But, if you believe in your core that something is right/important don’t succumb to any outside pressure to go back on it.

3. Don’t allow room in your life for people that don’t respect you.

Your circle should be quaint; quality over quantity. It should be filled with people who tell you the truth but above all respect you. If they don’t, they got to go.

4. Surround yourself with people and things that bring you life.

Pretty self explanatory but if you want good vibes you got to constantly nourish your soul with good things and good people.

5. Practice self-compassion.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Things aren’t always going to work out perfectly. That is life. What matters is how you react to it; what you tell yourself. Encourage yourself the way you would a friend!

6. Love Yourself.

Treat yourself, take yourself out, say nice things to yourself, and you will see that you will not only feel great but you will teach others how to love you and attract the right kind of people to your life.

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Overall, taking your power back is hard work but the benefits you will see are amazing.

Xoxo, 

Mara 

P.s Y’all should totally check out Amy’s book it’s a very good read!

3 Reasons Why I’m No Longer Claiming Anxiety

I’m not clinically diagnosed with anxiety but I can tell you that I’ve been an anxious person since I can remember.

I’ve been anxious about many things from being around a lot of people, to losing my parents, being rejected and the list goes on and on. I’ve lost sleep, felt sick to my stomach, and felt the need to hide.

When I finally understood that these things were actually symptoms of general anxiety disorder I made the unfortunate mistake of claiming it rather than seeking help.

Not only did that open the door for more anxiousness to manifest itself in my life but it minimized and almost completely eliminated my desire to get better.

However, I’ve realized that my desire to live a happy and healthy life is greater than the negative thoughts that adversely influence my life and sometimes keep me at a stand still.

Here are the three main reasons/driving forces in my decision to no longer claim anxiety:

1. I don’t want it. Sure, I may get anxious occasionally but I refuse to make it a part of who I am.

2. If I don’t claim it, I make room for the mindset in which I can take steps to overcome the things that bring about the anxiousness.

3. I’ve already made progress towards being the person that I want to be and if completely devote myself to it I know will be successful.

For me, it has boiled down to this principle:

Their is power in our words.

Let’s claim positive truths and watch how are lives are transformed for the better.

Let’s passionately seek great things for our lives like self love, self care, joy, peace, motivation (YOU NAME IT).

Xoxo,
Mara
 
 

5 Ways to Re-Center Your Life

Every day we are pulled left and right by the various things that life throws our way.

Whether it be losing a job, having friendship issues or personal issues these things disrupt our peace and leave is feeling anxious, stressed, and sometimes even depressed.

Yet, have you noticed that there are people that still find the courage to be joyful regardless of whatever comes their way?

These people are ones that have been able to find what gives their life balance.

They are able to assess what is going around them and take steps to make sure that they maintain their inner peace no matter how their outer life is looking.

These are five practices that you can implement in order to maintain your balance:

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1. Establish a routine for your down days that is loaded with self-care. Eat breakfast even if it’s 6 o’clock in the afternoon, read a book, take the time to get dolled up and take yourself out. These things may seem meaningless but they can actually give you the energy to stay motivated and approach your day from a better light.

2. Get your body moving. Workout, go for a walk, do something that will give your body the blood flow it needs, relax your mind, and release some endorphins while you’re at it.

3. Unplug and connect with yourself. Use this time to connect yourself by journaling for self-reflection, meditating, or doing some deep breathing exercises and note how you feel after a while.

4. Get rid of toxic friendships. The ones who only take but never give. The ones who constantly drain you. Let them go. If you want positive vibes in your life,  you have to surround yourself with people and things that exude positive vibes.

5. Seek counseling. Take the time to talk to someone in confidence. It can be cathartic and you will definitely learn more about yourself in the process.

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These are some universal things that you can implement in order to maintain balance in your life.

However, there are practices that aren’t on this list that might be of great benefit to you.

Seek them.

Take the time to figure out what you need to do in order to maintain balance in your life, and stick to it no matter what.

 

Good luck!

Xoxo,

Mara

7 Positive Affirmations for Everyday Life

I really wish I could accurately explain how beneficial positive self-talk is to our overall well-being.

All I can say is when you decide to react to circumstances in your life by speaking positive truths, you are able to experience a shift in emotions as well as a balanced change in perspective, over time.

Here are some positive affirmations you can use in your everyday life:

1. I am beautiful, I am unique, I am special. All that I am is enough and amazing. I don’t need to be anybody else but me. (cue Gavin Degraw, OTH fans where you at?:p)

2. I have made a mistake, but I am not a mistake.

3. What I think about myself is more important than what other people think about me.

4. My art is necessary. Even if it touches just one person, and that person is me.

5. I may not be where I want to be yet, but I am on my way there. Everything I am going through is only going to make me better prepared for what is coming.

6. No matter what comes my way today I can handle it gracefully.

7. I don’t need to be in control of everything for everything to be okay. 

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You know what the amazing thing about this is?

You don’t have to feel like these things are true in the moment for you to speak them.

However, continue speaking these positive truths and soon enough they become reality in your life.

Xoxo,

Mara

 

9 Ways to Self-Care After a Long Day of Work

Whether it’s taking some time to watch a movie you’ve been dying to see, spending some time journaling your thoughts, or even going through your natural hair wash day routine, self-care is so transformative for our overall well-being; managing our moods and allowing for greater perspective on situations that are taking place in our lives.

It is so easy to get wrapped up in meaningless activities after work but taking measures to self-care will help to maintain your physical, mental and emotional health as well as motivate you to continue working hard.

Here are some self-care activities that you can implement after a long day at work:

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  1. Put the electronics away for at least an hour or two. Especially if you work behind a screen all day. This will give your vision and your mind a break.
  2. Take some time to center yourself by practicing some meditation. You can try some deep breathing exercises or listen to calming music.
  3. Take a nice warm shower or bath, put on some comfy clothes and then eat dinner.
  4. Read your favorite book.
  5. Work on one of your hobbies.
  6. Workout. Plug the music in and tune the world out.
  7. Journal. Write about your day, what thoughts have been running through your mind, the things you’re grateful for, etc.
  8. Have a dance party.
  9. Converse with whoever is home, whether it’s your significant other, a friend, a family member.

What are some self-care practices you implement after work?

Let me know in the comment section.

Xoxo,

Mara