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How to Develop a Positive Mindset

The lens through which you look at the world and qualify your experiences guides the quality of your life.

Unconsciously and sometimes unknowingly we paint our world through predominantly positive or predominantly negative lenses. That is you can see a situation like almost getting into a car crash as the end of the world and that the universe is out to get you or you can look at it as an opportunity to express gratitude for making it out okay.

Developing a positive mindset is hard work but reaps plenty of benefits. Ranging from peace of mind, joy, mental strength and so much more.

If you would like to tackle the task of developing a positive mindset some things you can do are:

  • Change what you feed your mind – You have to become intentional about what you consume. Mindless tv and endless hours of binging Netflix is okay for a little while. But if you want to build a positive mindset you should intentionally watch motivational videos, listen to guided meditations, read and listen to good books.
  • Change what you see in the mirror – Mindset is not just mental but physical. Dress in a way that makes you feel like a boss.
  • Change what you say about yourself – You have the power to tell yourself that your curves and edges are beautiful. Some of my favorite affirmations are: I am beautiful, I am intelligent, i am mentally strong.

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“Your mind is a powerful thing. When you filter it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.” – Buddha

Xoxo,

Mara

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Cultivate Positivity in the Midst of Difficulties.

Cultivating a positive mindset on a regular basis is hard work in and of itself. So, cultivating positivity when things are difficult well that’s a whole other battle. The thing is we know in our minds that positivity works, that we would rather have a positive outlook on all situations and preserve our sanity yet we continue to let our emotions have the best of us. However, if we are willing to work on ourselves and build the muscle of positivity we will be able to withstand even the worst of days.

Some tips for building positivity during difficult times:

  • Breathe deeply. One. Two. Three. Four. One. Two. Three. Four.
  • What is going right? Think hard. Express gratitude.
  • Tell yourself everything you would tell a friend. Write it down. Say it to yourself in the mirror. Be your own cheerleader.
  • Connect with a close friend. Free your mind. Let it out to someone you trust.

 “Positive thinking is more than just a tagline. It changes the way we behave. And I firmly believe that when I am positive, it not only makes me better, but it also makes those around me better.” — Harvey Mackay

Xoxo,

Mara

The Mystery Blogger Award

Thank you to Reveuse for nominating me for THE MYSTERY BLOGGER AWARD.

You should definitely check out their blog. It is full of great content, positivity and ways to personally grow.

THE RULES:

1. Thank whoever nominated you and include a link to their blog.

2. Tell your readers 3 things about your self.

3. Nominate 6-7 bloggers you feel deserve the award.

4. Answer the questions from the person who nominated you.

5. Ask your nominees questions of your choice with one weird or funny one.

6.Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog.

ABOUT Me :

  1. I’m 25 years old.
  2. Singing is my hobby.
  3. I’m a self-help junkie.

ANSWERS:

1. If you go anywhere, where would you go? Puerto Rico

2. Would you go back in time? to change anything in your life if so what would it be? This is a hard one but I’m going to say no. If I went back in time I would never have met the wonderful people in my life today or experienced the massive growth I’ve had.

3. If you could be an animal what would you choose? A puppy

4. What is your favourite memory? Walking around my childhood neighborhood on my dad’s shoulders.

5. What is your favourite food? Yellow rice and pigeon peas (A traditional Puerto Rican/Caribbean dish)

QUESTIONS:

1. What are you grateful for today?

2. If there were no limitations, where would you want to be in 5 years?

3. What’s one thing you would say to your younger self if you got the chance to meet them?

4. If you could be a food which one would you be?

5. If you could be a superhero which one would you be?

NOMINATION:

  1. Queens Conquer
  2. Black Bold N Beautiful
  3. Belleza Corner
  4. Simple Ula
  5. Stargasaurs

 

Xoxo,

Mara

How to Attain Your Big Dreams

Many people want to accomplish their goals, live their dream lives, be the best version of themselves but the majority rarely ever accomplish it. Only a small percentage of people who have big dreams actually achieve them.

Why is that?

It’s not enough to just want to be successful, get the fancy car, have a lot of money, etc. With big dreams comes big work.

If you ever listen to motivational videos or read stories of successful people you realize that they have many things in common. Not only do they wake up early, they focus and they get shit done.

If you want to accomplish your big dreams it is important to:

  • Get clear about what you really want for your life and commit to it. Self-reflection is a great place to start. 🙂
  • Establish a routine that serves your goal. Do you need to get up every morning at 6 to work on your blog? Do you need to work out three times a day to get fit for the race? What is it that you need to incorporate into your routine to accomplish your goals?
  • Set reminders to keep you accountable. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again siri and google are the best and cheapest personal assistants.
  • Inundate your life with positivity. Send yourself positive reminders, listen to motivational videos in the morning. Afirm, afirm, afirm the good you want to manifest in your life.

You are the master of your ship. The time you invest on yourself and your mind will help you to reap the dream life that you desire.

“Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling…” – Les Brown

Xoxo,

Mara

Self-Reflection Questions to find Your Life’s Direction

Have you ever tried to figure out what it is that you want to do for the rest of your life? (loaded question right?)

You read books, google what the highest paying jobs are, think about what it is that your family profession is…but somehow none of that seems to satisfy you.

It gives you an immediate answer to suffice the questions from those around you but not that passionate certainty that you know is possible and other people seem to have.

What if I told you that the answer for to everything you want to do is right inside of you?

It all comes down to self-reflection.

As the word gives away, self reflection is reflecting on yourself. Pondering your life, everything you’ve done, why you’ve done it etc and listening to the answers deep inside of you that tell you everything you really want and what you are supposed to do.

To get started:

  • Step away from any distractions. Put the phone in another room, turn off the television, close your door and spend some time by yourself.
  • Clear your mind by practicing some meditation.
  • Ask yourself what values are important to me? What gives my life meaning and purpose? Write it down no matter how outrageous it might sound.
  • Ask yourself am I living by these values? Why or Why not?
  • What can I do that will give my life meaning and purpose?
  • What steps do I need to take to get there?
  • What can I do to keep myself motivated and hold myself accountability for this?

These questions are not meant to be the end all be all but rather a starting point for understanding yourself and what is important to you.

When you continue on your journey of self reflection you will begin to solidify the meaning of what is important to you and the direction for your life will become clearer.

“It all starts with you.” – Les Brown

Xoxo,

Mara

 

Organization Tips to Get Your Shit Together

It does you nor know anyone else any good if you don’t have your shit together.

Having your shit together brings you peace of mind. You don’t have to worry about missing important things or having to rearrange your schedule to go find something. It helps people get work done for you quickly and more efficiently.

It saves everyone so much time.

If you want to stop procrastinating, get it together and improve the quality of your life, these are some beneficial organizational tips:

1. Pick a location in which you will keep all of your important documents. Bills, car insurance info, car title etc. A binder, an expandable, whatever works for you but something that you can readily access and refer to when necessary.

2. Keep a dry erase board with your daily to do list in a visible area. This way you will not miss the important things you need to get done each day.

3. Keep a notebook or use the notes section in your phone with list of important phone numbers, passwords, etc.

4. Use your phone as your personal assistant. If you have Siri or Google ask her to remind you of appointments, events, things you need to get done. Double reminders can be more effective.

5. Set up your plan for the following day the night before. Prepare your clothes for work or school, get your lunch ready, and set your alarm.

6. Wake up an hour or two early in the morning. Look over your plan for the day, eat breakfast, listen to a podcast or YouTube video that slays and start your day strong.

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Being organized is being proactive about your life. Think about the feeling you get when you’re on top of your shit. Live for that. Stay motivated. Stay boss.

Xoxo,

Mara

Tips for Raising Your Vibration

You know when you hang around a group of people who are lit and you automatically feel like turning up? Or when you’ve had a great day and you meet up with a friend who’s had a shitty day and your mood just crashes?

That aura that people give off, whether happiness or sadness, joy or peace, is a result of the vibration or the energy of their life.

Like the wise Lalah Delia says ” The way you consistently treat, think, an talk about others, is your vibration”.

In essence our vibration is the scent of who we are and it’s important that if we want our vibration to be of high caliber than we intentionally focus on raising it.

Some tips for vibrating higher:

1. Breathe deeper. Rather than reacting to the external stimuli that threaten your energy, take a couple of breathes. Give yourself some time to think. To calm down. Then proceed from that clear head space.

2. Let it go. There are so many things that are not worth our energy. For example, entertaining the negative co-worker that wants to tell you everything wrong with your job or feeding into your negative thoughts that want to jump to conclusions whenever something doesn’t go the way you thought it would. Choose to not give it thought power.

3. Feed your spirit – Ingest positivity. Listen to audio books, motivational youtube videos, and read books that help you grow. In order to maintain that high vibration we have to make sure we surround ourselves with high vibration media.

4. Interrupt worry and anxiety with gratitude – When your mind wants to go down the slippery slope of creating negative scenarios or overthinking conversations with people, think of at least three things that you are grateful for. If you can, write it down. It’ll help you come back to in to your reality.

5. Debrief – When you start feeling off again, take the time to understand why it is that your feeling that way. Most likely there is a reason. Acknowledge it and move forward. If there isn’t a reason, which sometimes there isn’t, acknowledge it and move forward.

7. Change your Body Language – If your shoulders are slouched and your eyes are drooping then you most likely feel down. Interrupt that. Practice being at your best even when your not feeling it. Shoulders up, back straight, smiling bright.

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Your best life is up to you to create. Choose to vibrate higher now, today, and every day.

Xoxo,

Mara